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		<title>Free Workshop For Parents</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Help Your Children And Yourself Through Stressful Times   Everyone is different. What works for one person may not work for another.   With so many expert opinions, theories &#38;  advice, How can you know what’s best FOR YOU?   This interactive workshop will help you explore &#38; discover what works best for you and [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p align="center"><strong>Help Your Children And Yourself</strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong>Through Stressful Times</strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong> </strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong>Everyone is different. What works for one person may not work for another.</strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong> </strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong>With so many expert opinions, theories &amp;  advice, </strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong>How can you know what’s best <em>FOR YOU?</em></strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong> </strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong>This interactive workshop will help you explore &amp; discover what works best <em>for you and your children. </em></strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong><em> </em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>When:              Friday 15<sup>th</sup> June, 7.30pm to 9pm</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Where:             Crows Nest Centre, 2 Ernest Place, Crows Nest 2065</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Cost:                Free       </em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Enquiries:        Ph 02 9413 9794</em></strong></p>
<p><strong>         </strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Donald Marmara</strong><strong>  </strong><strong>trained principally in Europe in Somatic Psychotherapy, Developmental Psychology, and the Fundamentals of Structural Consulting.</strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>He has over 30 years’ international  experience of working with adults and children in various settings, including counselling and mentoring adults and high school students, and working in after school care centres with primary school children. Donald has also presented at  National and International Conferences in Australia and Europe.</strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong>Donald is also available for Individual &amp; Couples Sessions and In-house Workshops</strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong> </strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong>         Phone </strong><strong>02 9413 9794</strong><strong></strong></p>
<p align="center"><strong>             www.coredevelopment.com.au</strong><strong></strong></p>
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		<title>The Tortoise and the Hare</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Aug 2011 00:03:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The Tortoise and the Hare How the digestive system informs biodynamic therapy by Donald Marmara Gerda Boyesen, the Norwegian clinical psychologist and physiotherapist who set up the school of Biodynamic Psychology and Psychotherapy in London, tells this story. When she was seeing clients at her clinic in Oslo, she noted that she was having significantly better results [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p align="center"><strong>The Tortoise and the Hare</strong></p>
<p align="center"><em><strong>How the digestive system informs biodynamic therapy</strong></em></p>
<p align="center">by</p>
<p align="center"><a href="http://www.goodtherapy.com.au/donald_marmara">Donald <strong>Marmara</strong></a></p>
<p>Gerda Boyesen, the Norwegian clinical psychologist and physiotherapist who set up the school of Biodynamic Psychology and Psychotherapy in London, tells this story.</p>
<p>When she was seeing clients at her clinic in Oslo, she noted that she was having significantly better results with some clients than with others. Curious to find out what made the difference, she analysed the data, only to come up with the rather strange finding that she had more success with clients that she saw at certain times of the day.</p>
<p>Taking this a step further, she became aware that the clients who were making significantly better progress saw her at times when there was not much traffic going past her clinic, which was on a busy street.</p>
<p>She then realised that, at those times, she was able to listen to the sounds of the digestive system of her clients, whereas during the noisy times she was unable to hear them. In order to test her hypothesis that she was actually being guided by these sounds, she started using a stethoscope to listen to the intestinal sounds of her clients during bodywork sessions.</p>
<p>Her hypothesis was proved right and she started to get significantly better results all round and over a number of years of detailed studies, she discovered that the digestive system’s function included the processing and elimination of stress products, and that in fact its action was vital to the processes of therapy and healing. She called this action PSYCHOPERISTALSIS, to distinguish it from peristalsis, which is used to describe the pumping action of the walls of the digestive system in digesting food.</p>
<p>This discovery formed one of the most important cornerstones of Gerda Boyesen’s method of somatic psychotherapy which she calls Biodynamic Psychotherapy.</p>
<p>What is also really interesting here is her discovery that the psychoperistalsis opens, and is able to eliminate waste products and therefore complete the healing/therapeutic cycle, only when the person feels safe – she uses the term organismic safety to describe feeling safe to let go on a deep level.</p>
<p>This gives us a physiological understanding of why feelings of safety are so important in sessions – unless we are able to create relationships where our clients feel safe, the changes that take place are much less likely to be deep and sustainable as we will not get complete healing cycles.</p>
<p>Another important and connected discovery is that the psychoperistalsis is much more likely to open when the client is allowed to proceed at their own pace, without any pressure or pushing on the part of the therapist. This also validates an “allowing” approach.</p>
<p>It is a case of slower is faster, like the tortoise and the hare!</p>
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<p>Donald Marmara trained with some of the leading authorities and innovators in Europe and America in the fields of body-centred psychotherapy, massage, education and developing human potential, including <em>Gerda Boyesen</em> (Biodynamic Psychotherapy), <em>David Boadella</em> (Biosynthesis), and <em>Robert Fritz</em> (Structural Consulting).</p>
<p>Donald has over 30 years’ experience and has presented seminars at various conferences including the British Holistic Medical Association &amp;The Institute for Cultural Affairs in London, on behalf of MBF Health Management to leading corporations in Sydney, at the International Ecopolitics Conference at Macquarie University in Sydney, and at the Australian Counselling Association’s National Conferences in Brisbane &amp; Melbourne.</p>
<p>Donald currently resides in Sydney and can be contacted on <strong>02 9413 9794.</strong></p>
<p><strong>www.coredevelopment.com.au</strong></p>
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		<title>Please Do Not Confuse Performance With Self-Esteem!!</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 16 Apr 2011 07:11:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Whilst this article was written initially for students and parents, the same principles apply to us all. If you are a student, please remember that, whilst exam results are very important and getting the results you want will make a difference , your value as a human being is neither increased nor diminished by your [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Whilst this article was written initially for students and parents, the same principles apply to us all.</span></p>
<p>If you are a student, please remember that, whilst exam results are very important and getting the results you want will make a difference , <strong><em>your value as a human being is neither increased nor diminished by your performance.</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"> </span></strong></p>
<p>Think of someone you love. Will you love them less if they perform badly, or more if they perform well? People who really care about you will value you just as much if you fail as if you succeed. Of course they want you to succeed, and they may well be disappointed if you don’t – just as you would be – but they care about you and value you just as much either way.</p>
<p><em>Do you think that’s obvious?  Or do you find it hard to believe?</em></p>
<p><em> </em>Some students and others feel devastated when they do not achieve their goals. They confuse self-worth with performance , so they feel worthless if they do not perform well. They may even become seriously depressed and in some rare cases suicidal if they do not get the results they’re after.</p>
<p><strong><em>Even professionals sometimes confuse self-worth with performance</em></strong><em>.</em> Some people talk of helping others perform better as a means of building their self-esteem. Whilst of course it’s valuable to help someone improve their performance, please do not confuse this with building self-esteem.</p>
<p><strong><em>A person with healthy self-esteem still feels disappointed when they fail and pleased when they succeed, but these feelings do not take over their lives. They feel pleased or disappointed, but they still value themselves and feel worthy of love and respect regardless of their performance.</em></strong></p>
<p><em> </em></p>
<p>If you are a parent and have offered your son or daughter a reward for getting desired results, would you consider rewarding them unconditionally, just because you love them?</p>
<p><em> <strong>Donald Marmara<br />
</strong></em></p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><a href="mailto:donald@coredevelopment.com.au"><strong><em> </em></strong></a><strong><em> </em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Ph: </em>02 9413 9794</strong></p>
<p><strong>Mob:0412 178 234</strong></p>
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		<title>SUCCESS FAILURE &amp; MOTIVATION -Part 3</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Mar 2011 22:00:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Time to Smell the Roses Burnout and Stress What is going on and why? Many of you, like myself, will be receiving more mail than you can reasonably deal with.  So why should I add to your stress levels by inflicting another newsletter on you? Here’s why.  Instead of giving you more information to add [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h4>Time to Smell the Roses</h4>
<h5>Burnout and Stress</h5>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>What is going on and why?</strong></p>
<p>Many of you, like myself, will be receiving more mail than you can reasonably deal with.  So why should I add to your stress levels by inflicting another newsletter on you?</p>
<p>Here’s why.  Instead of giving you more information to add to your already overloaded in-tray, this newsletter will help you digest, assimilate and integrate the information you already have.</p>
<p>A report published in the Sunday Telegraph Magazine on 23 April 2000, said, “evidence suggests that our inability to process the deluge of data is causing a litany of ills from memory loss to heart disease”.</p>
<p>There is a mistaken idea that information is power.  Nothing can be further from the truth.  To quote from a Motorola brochure, “All the technology in the world means nothing if you don’t know what to do with it”.</p>
<p>This hunger for more information is not dissimilar to an addiction to overeating.</p>
<p>Information, like food, needs to be digested and assimilated.  Our nervous system, just like our digestive system, can only handle a certain amount of material at a time.  Overloading your brain with information has similar results to overloading your digestive system with food.  In the short-term it decreases your effectiveness rather than increasing it, just as overeating clogs up your system and decreases your health and fitness.  In the medium and longer term, it creates stress that can lead to serious long-term damage.</p>
<p>An article by Nick Tabakoff in BRW of 3 December 1999 says, “Information overload and unprecedented levels of corporate rationalisation have spawned a faceless but deadly career–killer burnout”.</p>
<p>“Extreme executive stress is rising rapidly…taking a rising emotional toll on individuals and an equally large financial toll on companies…Harris Smith and Associates estimate that the cost to business is in the hundreds of millions of dollars.”</p>
<p>Despite all the evidence, executives still find themselves under pressure to work longer hours!</p>
<p><strong>SO, what can you do about it?</strong></p>
<p><strong>1. </strong>STOP.  Before reading any further, take time to review what you’ve just read and evaluate it.  Decide whether to go on reading it or to throw it in the bin.  Your time is too valuable to waste on unhelpful material.</p>
<p><strong>2. </strong>This, of course, presupposes that you find this material valuable, otherwise you wouldn’t still be reading it!</p>
<p>Step 2 is to give yourself a balanced information diet.  Just as a balanced food diet is essential to your physical health, a balanced information diet is vital for your effective performance and continuing good health.   If you are a candidate for burnout the information you are feeding yourself is very likely to be unbalanced.</p>
<p>Warren Bennis writes, “Technologically we are very advanced but psychologically we are babes in the wood.  We do not know ourselves or anyone else very well”.</p>
<p>For a more balanced information diet, you need to get to know yourself better.  How can you do this?</p>
<p>&gt; Take <strong>TIME</strong> to think, reflect, and meditate.  Take a walk in the park, by the sea – or even just around the block.  Spend quiet time with yourself.  Do this regularly.</p>
<p>&gt; Get to know your <strong>body</strong>.  Your body is constantly giving you the information you need to lead a healthy, balanced and productive life.  Learn how to access that information.</p>
<p>&gt; Enlist the help of a skilled guide.  Why?  Because it is very hard to get to know yourself better, and to create more balance in your life, without appropriate <strong>support</strong>.</p>
<p>&gt; Aldous Huxley writes, “They <strong>intoxicate</strong> themselves with work so they won’t see how they really are”.</p>
<p><strong>Perform at your Best</strong></p>
<p>It is only by taking more time to know yourself and lead a more balanced life, that you can perform at your best.  It ought to be clear from all the available evidence that the pressure to do more is counter-productive to both individuals and companies, and that it is very costly to both.  The fact that executives continue to find themselves under pressure to work longer hours despite all the evidence shows how hard it is to change deep-seated habits and beliefs.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, and very predictably, many coaches actually contribute to the problem by pushing their clients to achieve more.  It takes courage and skill to understand that the way forward – and the way to promote optimal performance – is to reduce the pressure and not to increase it.</p>
<p>Enough food for thought.</p>
<p>Take a break now – do something you enjoy – take a walk, listen to music, spend quality time with your friends or loved ones.</p>
<p>I leave you with a quote from Dr Robert Schuller.</p>
<p><strong>“ </strong>What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail? <strong>”</strong></p>
<p>My very best wishes to you,</p>
<h5>Donald Marmara</h5>
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		<title>Dealing Successfully With Stress</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Sep 2010 10:55:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[HOW DEALING SUCCESSFULLY WITH STRESS CAN HELP YOU LIVE A HEALTHIER, HAPPIER AND MORE SUCCESSFUL LIFE by Donald Marmara, MGBI(Lond),MFPhys(Lond) When we talk about stress, we usually mean the symptoms of stress, from the earlier signs such as fatigue, irritability, backaches and headaches to the more serious consequences such as depression, uncontrollable rage, heart attacks [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p align="center"><strong>HOW DEALING SUCCESSFULLY WITH STRESS CAN HELP YOU LIVE A HEALTHIER, HAPPIER AND MORE SUCCESSFUL LIFE</strong></p>
<p align="center">by Donald Marmara<strong></strong><strong>, MGBI(Lond),MFPhys(Lond)</strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p>When we talk about stress, we usually mean the symptoms of stress, from the earlier signs such as fatigue, irritability, backaches and headaches to the more serious consequences such as depression, uncontrollable rage, heart attacks and strokes.</p>
<p>Stress is the result of an imbalance. When a system is out of balance, signals are sent to the control centre, which is the nervous system in the case of humans. These signals are essential for our survival – without them we would soon die of hunger, thirst, exhaustion or some other form of excess or deprivation.</p>
<p>When we receive a signal that corrective action is needed, eg we are tired and we need to rest – if we respond appropriately we will maintain optimal health and effectiveness. This is the function of stress symptoms, to give us information that will enable us to take appropriate action.</p>
<p><strong>If we ignore the early warning signals of stress, however, serious consequences can result.</strong></p>
<p>Research shows that about 75% of all visits to doctors are related to stress, and that when the underlying causes of stress are not adequately treated, serious conditions such as heart disease, respiratory illnesses, stroke, and even ulcers of the digestive tract are amongst the many consequences that can develop.</p>
<p>Medical researchers have also found that psychological stress weakens the immune system and hence the body’s ability to maintain good health. People under stress are also twice as likely to contract colds and flu.</p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><em>It is neither stress nor the symptoms of stress that are the cause of so many problems. On the contrary, it is only when we do not respond appropriately to these signals that serious problems arise.</em></p>
<p><em> </em></p>
<p>The symptoms of stress are like the instrument panel in an aircraft or motor car.</p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>Blaming stress for our problems is like blaming the fuel gauge for telling us that we’re running out of fuel, and ignoring the symptoms of stress or just taking pills to suppress them is like cutting the wires to the fuel gauge and pretending that we have enough fuel.</strong></p>
<p>If it is obvious that the way forward is to listen to the warning signs and take corrective action, why do so many people continue to behave irrationally and suffer the consequences?</p>
<p>Surely we should expect to get healthier and happier as we become more technologically advanced?</p>
<p>Unfortunately this is not the case. It appears that an understanding of how human beings function lags well behind our knowledge of computers and robotic systems.</p>
<p>Because of various factors in our culture and upbringing, including the unfortunate and erroneous belief that seeking help is a sign of weakness rather than strength, many of us have lost the sensitivity we need in order to understand and respond adequately to imbalances in our system.</p>
<p>When something in your body doesn’t feel right, something you’re doing needs to change.</p>
<p>Are you able to respond by making the changes that your body is asking you to make, or do you take action to cover up the symptoms( eg alcohol, smoking, overeating, drugs, workaholic etc) ?  Are you able to respond appropriately or have you lost the ability to do so?</p>
<p>There are ways in which we can help ourselves become healthier and more responsive to our bodily signals, and some ways of doing this are listed below.</p>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Here are some suggestions for dealing with stress:</span></p>
<p>Learn to recognise signs of stress early – before it causes you serious damage, by:</p>
<ul>
<li>Having      regular medical and dental checkups</li>
<li>Taking      time each day to listen to your body</li>
<li>Completing      any unfinished business from the past that is taking up energy – whether      you’re aware of it or not. (You may require professional help to do this      successfully)</li>
</ul>
<p><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Adopt practical strategies for managing and overcoming stress</span> :</p>
<ul>
<li>Regular      exercise  helps you release stress,      keep physically fit and healthy.</li>
<li>Balanced diet – eat slowly! and discover the diet best      suited to your particular needs.</li>
<li>Massage      – regular massage helps your body eliminate toxins, improves circulation      and muscle tone – all these are important for physical and mental health.</li>
<li>Meditation      – calms you down and helps increase your self-awareness.</li>
<li>Observe      the circumstances under which you feel stressed, do your best to avoid      them where possible.</li>
<li>Observe      the circumstances under which you feel relaxed – do your best to put      yourself as often as possible in those situations.</li>
<li><strong>IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT YOU FIND OUT WHAT      WORKS FOR YOU, AS INDIVIDUALS VARY AND WHAT ONE PERSON FINDS STRESSFUL MAY      BE RELAXING AND BENEFICIAL FOR ANOTHER.</strong></li>
</ul>
<p>Also as your needs/circumstances vary, so the steps you need to take to stay healthy need to vary accordingly. You may find it worthwhile to enlist the help of a professional practitioner to do this successfully.</p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><strong>COPING vs CHANGE</strong></p>
<p><strong> </strong></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Whilst the above strategies will help you cope with stress, you will need to take this a step further if you want to create a  significant and lasting improvement in your overall health, effectiveness and wellbeing.</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Whilst we can certainly help ourselves deal with stress, most of us will find that we can do this much more effectively, go a lot further, and save ourselves unnecessary hardship with the guidance of an experienced therapist, particularly one who understands the connection between mind, body and emotions, and who has personally  undergone the journey of therapy and change.</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em> </em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em>Note that it is a sign of strength not of weakness to seek professional help, and that the people who are most successful set up support systems and are willing to reach out for help .</em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em> </em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em>In choosing someone to guide you through unfamiliar territory, you will naturally want someone who has  traversed the territory themselves.</em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em> </em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em>case-history:</em></span></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em> </em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em>Here’s an example of how an experienced therapist can help you make significant and lasting life changes: </em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em> </em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em>When S.M. moved to Sydney from Western Australia he found himself under considerable stress. He had a dead-end job, and his move had also placed strains on his family and relationships. Establishing social networks was proving difficult. “All in all it was a very isolating and lonely experience, and this manifested in me in a case of serious ill-health” he says.</em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em>“These circumstances impacted adversely on every aspect of my life.</em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em>“Then I met Donald Marmara. It was obvious to him that I was not my normal self and when he suggested that we spend an hour together, I was not sure what he could do.</em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em>“However I am pleased to say that his friendly manner, logical and systematic approach to my needs, particularly at a sensitive time; his ability to assist me in focusing, then prioritising critical and depleted energies into the channels that best reflected my needs at the time. Importantly, his continued efforts over the following months were and are greatly appreciated.</em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em>“There are times in life when individuals do require assistance, and my advice to others is do not wait until you have depleted your reserves.”</em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em>S.M’s health improved significantly, he left his dead-end job and now runs his own very successful business. He has a lot more free time, and enjoys a much happier and healthier life in Sydney. </em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong><em> </em></strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Donald has 30 years international experience, has presented at seminars organised by the British Holistic Medical Association  and the Institute for Cultural Affairs in London,  at the Australian Counselling Association’s National Conferences in Brisbane and Melbourne, at the International Ecopolitics Conference at Macquarie University in Sydney, and at the University of Western Sydney.<br />
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<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>He has presented seminars on stress management and communication to leading corporations in Sydney on behalf of MBF Health Management , as well as professional development seminars to the Society of Clinical Masseurs at Swinburne University in Melbourne.</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>Donald has also been a visiting lecturer at the Australian School  of Therapeutic Massage in Burwood, Victoria.</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>His passion is to assist individuals and organisations be so fully engaged in creating what really matters to them that no energy is left for destructive behaviour.</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="color: #000000;"><strong>donald@coredevelopment.com.au</strong></span></p>
<h5><em>Ph: 02 9413 9794</em><strong><em><br />
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		<title>Producing Results</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 15 Oct 2009 01:10:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donald</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I tell people that Core Development is results- focused, they often remark, “ that ’s solution focused, right?�? No. Whilst solution- focused behaviour is driven by a problem – or by the need to solve or eliminate a problem, results-focused act ions are driven by the desire to create a certain result.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3>Results or Solutions?</h3>
<p>When I tell people that Core Development is results- focused, they often remark, “ that ’s solution-focused, right? No.</p>
<p>Whilst solution- focused behaviour is driven by a problem,  or by the need to solve or eliminate a problem, results- focused actions are driven by the desire to create a certain result .</p>
<p>Solution- focused behaviour is problem solving. Results- focused is a creative act that does not require a problem to drive it.</p>
<p>The motivational dynamics are different , and one of the aims of Core Development is to enable people to make the transition from a problem-solving orientation, which is the prevalent attitude in our culture, to a creative, results- focused orientation.</p>
<p>In the latter, our major drivers are the results that we want to create, rather than the problems that we want to solve or eliminate. It involves a shift in our life orientation, in our way of perceiving.</p>
<p>I am indebted to my teacher Robert Fritz, author of ‘The Path of Least Resistance’, for helping me understand this distinction.</p>
<h3>The Difference Between Knowing And Doing</h3>
<p>The Managing Director of Human Synergistics, Shaun McCarthy, is quoted in the Sydney Morning Herald (7.12.02) as saying, “When you ask someone to tell you what good leadership is they can tell you that .</p>
<p>But there is a big difference between knowing it and doing it ?  Why? Because knowing is merely intellectual, and most of our education gives us information that we are unable to put into practice because we have not embodied it . It’s like learning to ride a bicycle by reading a book. Until we embody the principles of riding a bike, all the intellectual understanding does not help us.</p>
<p>The processes of Core Development are fundamentally different from intellectual learning processes. Core Development helps you embody what you learn, so that you can use that knowledge effectively in your life and work.</p>
<p>Psychological studies show that 60% to 90% of our learning takes place through body language and voice tone. How much attention is paid to this in our educational system &#8211; including professional and business studies?</p>
<p>No wonder the study conducted by Human Synergistics involving 35,000 managers in Australia and New Zealand found that “ the overwhelming style of management ident ified was avoidance, characterised by a fear of failure? and the least common style was “ the one credited with the best results, a constructive manner&#8230;?</p>
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		<title>Increase Productivity &amp; Create a Strong &amp; Sustainable Culture</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 20 Sep 2009 00:56:03 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donald</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[How to increase your employee's productivity and create a strong sustainable business culture - Most business leaders have a very good understanding of their business and of the industry they’re in – arguably they would not be in leadership roles if they didn’t. Not many, however, are as well versed in people-management and relationship skills, which is not surprising as you can’t expect to be good at everything!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Most business leaders have a very good understanding of their business and of the industry they’re in – arguably they would not be in leadership roles if they didn’t. Not many, however, are as well versed in people-management and relationship skills, which is not surprising as you can’t expect to be good at everything!</p>
<p>Studies show that relationships affect performance, and that companies whose employees have high morale show TWICE THE RETURN ON CAPITAL than those whose employees dislike where they work. (Carole Kinsy Gorman – This isn’t the Company I joined – NY 1997).</p>
<p>Clearly, then, it is important to create a positive working environment not only because it’s worthwhile in itself, but also because it results in better all-round performance and improved profitability. So how can you do this?</p>
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<li>Take time to formulate a clear and detailed vision for your company , and involve your staff in this process so that they take ownership of the vision – so it’s their vision as well as yours.</li>
<li>In order to do this effectively, it is also important for you to define your personal vision and to encourage your staff to do the same. You don’t necessarily have to make this public, but you do need to have a clarity in yourselves as to what your personal values and life goals are and how they relate to those of the company.</li>
<li>Learn and teach your staff how to communicate effectively. This includes ensuring that members understand each other clearly, know how to resolve conflicts and communicate in a way that motivates the listener to respond positively even to constructive criticism.</li>
<li>It also involves an awareness of the role of body language and voice tone. Psychological studies show that 60% to 90% of communication is through body language and tone of voice, yet how much do we learn about this in our educational system?</li>
<li>Acknowledge that seeking help when appropriate is a sign of strength not of weakness. Be willing to ask for help when you need it, and encourage your staff to do the same. We learn and teach by example so it is up to you as a leader to set an example to your staff.</li>
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<h5 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #800000;">If you want less stress and more energy, call 02 9413 9794 or 0412 178 234</span></h5>
<h3 style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>Donald Marmara</strong></span></h3>
<p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #000080;"><strong>MGBI(UK),MFPhys(UK), AARBPA, CMACA</strong></span></p>
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		<title>What&#8217;s Driving You?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Sep 2009 02:39:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Donald</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[SUCCESS FAILURE &#38; MOTIVATION Part I: What’s driving you? Every action is motivated by the desire to move TOWARDS or AWAY FROM  something or someone. There is an important difference in the way these two forces work. Desire for Success When you move TOWARDS a desired result (creating), the intensity of the drive INCREASES as [...]]]></description>
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<h3><span style="font-size: 16pt; font-family: &quot;Century Gothic&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;; color: #333333;" lang="EN-AU">SUCCESS</span><span style="font-size: 16pt; font-family: &quot;Century Gothic&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;" lang="EN-AU"> <span style="color: gray;">FAILURE &amp;</span> <span style="color: #999999;">MOTIVATION</span></span></h3>
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<h1><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: &quot;Century Gothic&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;" lang="EN-AU">Part I:<span> </span>What’s driving you?</span></h1>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">Every action is motivated by the desire to move TOWARDS or AWAY FROM  something or someone.<span> </span>There is an important difference in the way these two forces work.</span></p>
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<h1 style="margin: 0in 0in 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: &quot;Century Gothic&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;" lang="EN-AU">Desire for Success</span></h1>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">When you move TOWARDS a desired result (creating), the intensity of the drive INCREASES as you approach your goal, rather like a magnet pulling metal towards it.<span> </span>There is no need to push yourself in any way, as your chosen goal acts as its own motivation.</span></p>
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<h5><span lang="EN-AU">Fear of Failure</span></h5>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">When your actions are motivated by the desire to move away from something (problem-solving), the intensity of your drive DECREASES as you move AWAY FROM the undesired object.<span> </span>When you have moved far enough from the undesired object, the drive stops.<span> </span>You have reached your goal.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">Why is this distinction important?<span> </span>Because it is far more effective to be motivated by choosing what you want (ie: success) than by choosing what you don’t want (ie: failure). </span></p>
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<h4 style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><span style="font-size: 12pt;" lang="EN-AU">CONSIDER this:</span></h4>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><span lang="EN-AU">How often do we motivate ourselves, our colleagues, employees, children, &#8211; by focusing on what would happen if we failed?</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><span lang="EN-AU">I invite you to take time to reflect upon this, as the outcomes of these two approaches are qualitatively different.<span> </span></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><span lang="EN-AU">When fear is your driving force, you have reached your goal and your drive stops when you are no longer afraid.<span> </span>Your drive does not carry you to the goal you desire, but only away from the result that you want to avoid.<span> </span>So if you choose this method of motivating yourself, you can only hope to attain your desired goal by keeping yourself (or colleagues, employees, etc.) under pressure.<span> </span></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><span lang="EN-AU">You have to keep pushing yourself otherwise your driving force stops and you fall into a state of inertia.<span> </span></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><span lang="EN-AU">Is this not the way that most people operate in our society?</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">Advertising </span><span lang="EN-AU">campaigns for safe driving, for example, tend to focus on the terrible things that happen to people who drive recklessly.<span> </span>They show pictures of accidents and of guilty drivers losing their licenses and being sent to prison.<span> </span>They attempt to create results by using the motivation of fear.<span> </span>No attempt is made to promote safe driving, but only to discourage reckless driving.<span> </span>It is hardly surprising that they do not appear to be successful.</span></p>
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<h5><span lang="EN-AU">The Price of Fear</span></h5>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">The physiology of fear is such that it makes available a vast amount of energy in a very short space of time.<span> </span>In emergencies, this is essential for our survival.<span> </span>When maintained over a long period of time, however, it breaks down the tissues of our body and causes us serious damage.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">When fear is our driving force, we have to work hard and we often pay a high price for it.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">Consider this seriously, as it is one of the central issues we deal with in helping people live fuller and richer lives.<span> </span>Once you start to understand the underlying mechanics of motivation, the direction and quality of your life – and business – changes.<span> </span></span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">As most of us are so deeply conditioned to use fear as our driving force, it can take effort and soul searching to reach the truth as, when our habitual ways of operating are challenged, we move out of our comfort zone and the driving force of fear acts to push us back in.<span> </span>Often, this force acts so quickly and astutely that we are not consciously aware of it, and this is where an experienced person – one who understands this distinction and does not operate by pushing – can be helpful in guiding you through this territory.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><strong><span style="font-size: 12pt; font-family: &quot;Century Gothic&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;" lang="EN-AU">REFLECT upon this:</span></strong></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><span lang="EN-AU">&gt; What drives you?</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><span lang="EN-AU">&gt; Which aspects of your life – and business – are driven by fear and which are by your choice to create the desired result?</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><span lang="EN-AU">&gt; Are you able to tell the difference?</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0in 33.35pt 0.0001pt 28.35pt; background: #b3b3b3 none repeat scroll 0% 0%;"><span lang="EN-AU">&gt; If you really want the result you’ve chosen, why do you need to push yourself?</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">I end with a quote from Billy Connolly.</span></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><strong><span style="font-size: 16pt; font-family: &quot;Century Gothic&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;" lang="EN-AU">“ </span></strong><span lang="EN-AU">Be wary of those who say they have the answers.<span> </span>Seek the company of those who are trying to understand the questions! </span><strong><span style="font-size: 16pt; font-family: &quot;Century Gothic&quot;,&quot;sans-serif&quot;;" lang="EN-AU">”</span></strong></p>
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span lang="EN-AU">Best wishes to you,</span></p>
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<p class="MsoHeader"><em><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: &quot;Monotype Corsiva&quot;;" lang="EN-AU">Donald Marmara</span></em></p>
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		<title>How Do You Listen?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Aug 2009 01:13:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[In the mid-1980&#8242;s I served an apprenticeship with a Native American teacher, Sun Bear. When I introduced Sun Bear to an audience, I said: There are different ways to listen. One way is to listen with your head, to try to understand, explain, interpret, evaluate and take notes. Another way is to listen with your [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In the mid-1980&#8242;s I served an apprenticeship with a Native American teacher, Sun Bear.</p>
<p>When I introduced Sun Bear to an audience, I said:</p>
<p>There are different ways to listen. One way is to listen with your head, to try to understand, explain, interpret, evaluate and take notes.</p>
<p>Another way is to listen with your heart, allowing his words to evoke feelings, sensations and thoughts.</p>
<p>If you listen with your head, you will miss Sun Bear, because he speaks directly to your heart.</p>
<p>How do you listen to music? Do you try to understand and evaluate it, or do you allow it to touch and move you?</p>
<p>How do you listen?</p>
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		<title>SUCCESS FAILURE &amp; MOTIVATION</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 03 Aug 2009 00:45:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[PART TWO Intrinsic and Extrinsic Motivation In Part One, the difference between fear of failure, where the driving force progressively diminishes and therefore requires constant effort to maintain, and desire for success, where the driving force increases as you approach your goal and therefore requires no external force to maintain, was discussed. You were encouraged [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3>PART TWO</h3>
<h3>Intrinsic and Extrinsic Motivation</h3>
<p><em>In Part One, the difference between fear of failure, where the driving force progressively diminishes and therefore requires constant effort to maintain, and desire for success, where the driving force increases as you approach your goal and therefore requires no external force to maintain, was discussed.</em></p>
<p><em>You were encouraged to ask yourself:</em></p>
<p><em>What drives you?  Which of your actions are motivated by fear of failure and which by desire for success?  How can you tell the difference?  How do you typically motivate yourself, your colleagues, employees, children etc?</em></p>
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<p>When you do something because you enjoy doing it, your motivation is intrinsic.  When you do something because you are rewarded for doing it – or when you don’t do something because you’ll be punished if you do it – your motivation is extrinsic.</p>
<h3>Motivation and Performance Management</h3>
<p>When these two motivational forces act in the same direction – eg: you love your work and you are well paid for it – all your energy is applied to the task at hand.  There is no conflict, hence no wasted energy, no harmful stress.</p>
<p>When the two forces are in conflict – eg: you do not like your work but you are well paid for it –an “approach-avoidance” conflict arises.  You are motivated to reap the reward (money) but you are also motivated to avoid the work that you find unpleasant.  Energy is required to overcome your urge to stay away from work hence less energy is available for work, and if you can find a way of reaping the reward (money) without paying the price (unpleasant work) – you will!</p>
<p>In any situation, various motivational forces are operating.  It is important, therefore, to understand the specific forces in play and their interaction, in order to know which changes are most likely to create lasting results.</p>
<p>When both intrinsic and extrinsic factors are considered in relationship to each other and to the situation as a whole, the results are likely to be beneficial and lasting.</p>
<p>THINK about this:</p>
<p>&gt; Which aspects of your life – and business – are motivated intrinsically and which extrinsically?</p>
<p>&gt; What are the major motivational forces – and conflicts – operating in your life?</p>
<p>&gt; Does our system of reward and punishment work?  Look at the evidence.  Is performance improving and stress decreasing?  Are we healthier?  Is the crime rate decreasing?</p>
<h3>Where to from here?</h3>
<p>Understanding what motivates us enables us to use our resources more effectively.  It enables us to eliminate waste and direct our efforts on target.  Intellectual understanding, however, is not enough.</p>
<p>Experiential understanding &#8211; understanding that comes from our own direct experiencing – is what enables us to convert information into knowledge that leads to effective action.</p>
<p>REFLECT upon this:</p>
<p>&gt; How do I form my opinions, beliefs and judgements?</p>
<p>&gt; On what evidence do I base my decisions?</p>
<h4>What is Core Development Coaching?</h4>
<h4>How does it differ from Psychotherapy?</h4>
<p>Let us take an example of a case that requires the skills of both coaching and psychotherapy eg: a high achiever whose motive to succeed is driven by feelings of inadequacy.</p>
<h3>Defining “Success”</h3>
<p>Even though this person may be getting very good results, he will be expending a lot of energy and paying a high price for his material success.  It is the task of a good coach to assist this person in differentiating between his feelings of inadequacy and his desire to succeed, and to deal with each of these appropriately. He will help his client determine what results he truly wishes to create, and help him find the most effective ways of doing this.</p>
<h3>Creating What Really Matters To You</h3>
<p>If a person’s achievements are driven by her feelings or fear of inadequacy, this person will feel compelled to keep achieving in order to cover up her fears.  She will never be truly satisfied, never able to fully relax and enjoy her life.  If a coach were to support her in achieving her goals without understanding the underlying motivational dynamics, therefore, she would simply be reinforcing her compulsive behaviour.</p>
<p>This is why it is important, in my opinion, for a coach to have an understanding of these dynamics. I believe that it is also very helpful for a coach to have experienced therapy herself.</p>
<h3>Supporting You All The Way To Completion</h3>
<p>Whilst a psychotherapist would guide you into an in-depth exploration of your psyche, a Core Development Coach will help you understand the dynamics underlying your behaviour, work out what results will be of most benefit to you, and work with you step-by-step to devise the most effective and satisfying ways of achieving those results.</p>
<p>So in Core Development Coaching, we first find out what results best serve the interests of the person, group or organisation that we are working with, then we find the most effective ways of creating those results.</p>
<p>We sometimes find ourselves going back and forward between these two, constantly checking that the results we are creating are in fact the ones that will most benefit the individual, group or organisation that we are coaching.</p>
<p>Core Development Coaching is of value to anyone who wishes to create more of what truly matters to them in their lives.</p>
<h5>To find out how Core Development  can help you and/or your organisation, call Core Development on 02 9413 9794</h5>
<p>Best wishes to you,</p>
<p>Donald Marmara</p>
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