How Listening to Your Body Can Help You Deal With Your Anxiety

What do YOU mean by anxiety?

We all know what anxiety feels like, and because it is so common, we tend to assume that everyone knows what we mean when we say we’re feeling anxious. As everyone is different, however, what anxiety feels like to me may not be the same as what it feels like to you.

This makes it difficult – perhaps even dangerous – to give you help or advice without having a detailed knowledge and understanding of precisely what you are feeling and going through. read more

Do You Have To Be Mentally Ill To Benefit From Counselling And Psychotherapy?

Counselling and Psychotherapy are powerful tools for personal and social change.

They enable us to resolve emotional issues that are preventing us from being happy with ourselves and our lives, and from having fulfilling relationships.

They can also be helpful in cases where physical problems are caused or aggravated by emotional stress. Somatic or Body Psychotherapy can be especially helpful in this respect. read more

Listening To Your Teenager

A girl was sitting on her own in the school playground. I walked up to her and said “Are you OK? You look sad”.

She replied “It’s my birthday tomorrow”.

“Why does that make you sad?” I asked

”I’m getting a bicycle”

“Don’t you want a bicycle?”

“No I don’t want a bicycle. I want my dad to spend the day with me”    read more

How to Learn the Language of Emotions

To learn the language of emotions, we need to understand that emotions are not logical, and cannot be communicated meaningfully in logical terms alone.

You can tell someone “I feel down” or “I feel great” in three simple words. Telling them exactly how and why can be far more challenging, especially when you might not even know yourself. read more

Talking to Your Teenager

Talking to your teenager is one of life’s big challenges, requiring flexibility, creative thought and a willingness to enter into their world.

The aim is to give your teenager food for thought, rather than just dispensing advice, or reading them the riot act.

For communication to be meaningful, it involves genuine listening to what your teen is telling you. There’s a difference between listening to understand what they feel, and giving the appearance of listening when you’ve already made up your mind about what they should be doing. read more

Pushing Back the Stigma of Mental Illness

Here is an interesting question. Does a person’s anxiety, depression or other distressing feeling indicate that they are mentally ill, or absolutely normal?

Different schools of thought will give you different answers. In core development terms, however, anxiety, depression and other signs of emotional distress often indicate that your sense of self is healthy enough to produce these symptoms of a deeper, often hidden emotional conflict. read more

Core Development – Counselling, Somatic Psychotherapy or Emotional Learning?

What is core development?

Whilst I trained principally as a counsellor and somatic psychotherapist, I developed Core Development as a process of emotional learning rather than clinical treatment.

It is a system of self-discovery aimed at increasing personal awareness and resilience through a sustained exploration of the feelings, thoughts and beliefs that drive us. read more

Experiential Learning

Experiential Learning and its relevance to Somatic Psychotherapy, Counselling and Education.

by Donald Marmara

I will share an experience that I had when I was 20 years old. This is a true story and one of the formative experiences of my life.

I grew up in Malta, and I happened to meet an interesting guy at a party one night. I started chatting with this man, and discovered that he was one of England’s leading meteorological experts and that he had been hired by the government to help set up a met office in Malta. read more

What is “Normal”?

Counselling and Psychotherapy are sometimes seen as ways of helping people adjust to society.  Whilst this is what some people may want and some counsellors and psychotherapists may provide, this is not what I do. I do not measure a person’s mental health by how well adjusted they are to society. read more

Dealing Successfully With Stress

Research shows that about 75% of all visits to doctors are related to stress, and that when the underlying causes of stress are not adequately treated, serious conditions such as heart disease, respiratory illnesses, stroke, and even ulcers of the digestive tract can develop.

So how do you ensure that you control your stress levels so that you remain relaxed, centred and rational in all situations and reduce your likelihood of developing the many serious health conditions associated with high stress levels? read more