PLEASE DO NOT CONFUSE PERFORMANCE WITH SELF ESTEEM
It’s Examination Time Again!!
BEST WISHES TO ALL STUDENTS DOING THEIR HSC
Whilst this was written primarily for students, it applies to us all.
If you are a student, please remember that, whilst exam results are important and getting the results you want will make a difference, your value as a human being is neither increased nor diminished by your performance.
Core Development offers the following to Parents, Educators, and Practitioners who work with children:
YOUR NEEDS MATTER
If you parent or work with children, it is likely you are always thinking of others. In doing so, you may be neglecting your own needs.
To be a better carer, it is important to take care of yourself.
Have you wondered why, despite advances in technology and the increasing use of psychological and coaching services, STRESS, ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION are still major problems?
When we talk about stress, we usually mean the symptoms of stress, such as headaches, back pain, anxiety, depression, and various emotional and physical problems.
Core Development offers:
The artist Chuck Close once said: “You can give the same recipe to 10 cooks. Some make it come alive, and some make a flat soufflé. A system doesn’t guarantee anything.”
The same applies to relationships. Hundreds of books tell you what to do and not do to make your relationships work. Numerous workshops claim to give you the “secrets” to success.
Wars – Terrorist Attacks – Anxiety and Depression – Mass Shootings – Domestic Violence – Relationship Breakdowns
In the latter part of this article, I describe two very simple exercises, well known to many psychotherapists, that could transform the way we relate and communicate. And in my article on “Dealing With Your Emotions”, I explain why I believe these methods are not more widely used .
It’s good to remind ourselves not to see and relate to people – children and adults – through the filter of a label, however correct we may think the label is.
Some time ago I had the opportunity of working with a woman in her late 20s. She was diagnosed as chronically depressed, and stuck in a junior position in her company because they said she was a slow learner with poor communication skills and no good at working in a team.
What do YOU mean by anxiety?
We all know what anxiety feels like, and because it is so common, we tend to assume that everyone knows what we mean when we say we’re feeling anxious. As everyone is different, however, what anxiety feels like to me may be very different from what it feels like to you.
This makes it difficult – perhaps even dangerous – to give you help or advice without having a detailed knowledge and understanding of precisely what you are feeling and going through.
Counselling and Psychotherapy are powerful tools for personal and social change.
They enable us to resolve emotional issues that are preventing us from being happy with ourselves and our lives, and from having fulfilling relationships.
They can also be helpful in cases where physical problems are caused or aggravated by emotional stress. Somatic or Body Psychotherapy can be especially helpful in this respect.
To learn the language of emotions, we need to understand that emotions are not logical, and cannot be communicated meaningfully in logical terms alone.
You can tell someone “I feel down” or “I feel great” in three simple words. Telling them exactly how and why can be far more challenging, especially when you might not even know yourself.
Here is an interesting question. Does a person’s anxiety, depression or other distressing feeling indicate that they are mentally ill, or absolutely normal?
Different schools of thought will give you different answers. In core development terms, however, anxiety, depression and other signs of emotional distress often indicate that your sense of self is healthy enough to produce these symptoms of a deeper, often hidden emotional conflict.
