Parents – How To Be More Effective In Helping Your Children

You can reduce the stress you have as a parent when your children are having difficulties . This will also make you  more effective in helping them.

Parents who come to see me with concerns about their children sometimes feel guilty, confused or inadequate. These feelings can sometimes be reinforced by conflicting expert opinions and advice.

Don’t worry! My aim is to help you feel better about yourself and your children, and to reassure you that nobody’s perfect and that you don’t need to be perfect to be a good parent.

Here’s why reducing your stress levels is important to help your children:

  • Stress can affect your health and wellbeing, drain your energy, and interfere with your ability to make clear and effective decisions.
  • It is harder for you to do the best for your children when you’re stressed.
  • Your children want you to be happy and successful just as much as you want them to be. When you’re stressed your children feel stressed, and they may also feel guilty that they are causing you stress.
  • This sets up a vicious circle which is hard to break out of. You worry about your children, you may even feel guilty about the effect this has on them.This causes them to worry and perhaps also feel guilty that they are causing you stress, and so it goes on!
  • Stress has an adverse affect on children and interferes with their ability to do well at school.

So what can you do to reduce your stress levels and those of your children, so that you can all be healthier, happier and more successful?

Here are some practical suggestions for dealing with stress:

  • Develop Body Awareness. Take a few minutes every day to listen to your body. This will help you detect signs of stress early, before they cause you more serious damage.
  • Complete any “unfinished business” and unresolved conflicts that are taking up your energy. You may need skilled help to do this.
  • Deal with the smaller issues first. This will build your confidence and you will be in a better position to deal with the bigger issues.
  • Live your life in alignment with your values and beliefs – ie be true to yourself. Failure to do this causes conflict and stress.
  • Regular exercise, a balanced diet, massage and meditation are all ways of preventing and releasing stress.
  • Find what works for you, as we’re all different and what stresses one person may relax and benefit someone else.

You want the best for your children, and it is not always easy to know what you need to do especially when your feelings are involved.

I can help you deal with these feelings so that you can make clear decisions.

If you want to feel healthier, have more energy, be better able to help your children and have more fun with them, call me on 02 9413 9794 or 0412 178 234 for a confidential and no obligation discussion.

I have developed core development as a result of over 35 years international experience of working with adults, teenagers and children in various settings, as well as having overcome serious obstacles myself including turning my life around after 12 years of chronic anxiety and depression.

I bring all my experience and insights to our work together so we’re successful. These include my training and experience in counselling and somatic psychotherapy, youth mentoring, couselling parents and teenagers, child care and structural consulting.

My approach is supportive, validating and encouraging. I help you identify and develop your strengths and talents, some of which are often hidden. You can use these to deal with your challenges constructively so you get positive and permanent results.

If you want to feel healthier, have more energy, be better able to help your children and have more fun with them, call me on 02 9413 9794 or 0412 178 234 for a confidential and no obligation discussion.

Please note that core development is a learning experience and is not intended to replace clinical or medical attention where this is required.

Donald Marmara created Core Development – a process of change and personal growth developed from his professional training and 35 years’ experience in somatic (body) psychotherapy, counselling and structural dynamics.

Core development adopts a flexible approach, recognising that what works for one person may not work for another.

Donald currently resides and practices in Sydney, and is available for individual sessions, couples sessions, counselling teenagers and parents, and facilitating training programs and workshops.

He can be contacted on 02 9413 9794 or 0412 178 234.