by Donald Marmara, Somatic Psychotherapist Sydney
Consider this :
“IT’S EASY FOR MEAT-EATERS TO SHARE A KITCHEN
IT’S EASY FOR VEGETARIANS TO SHARE A KITCHEN
THE CHALLENGE IS FOR MEAT-EATERS AND VEGETARIANS TO FIND WAYS OF SHARING A KITCHEN WITH EACH OTHER!”
Quote from Sun Bear, Native American Medicine Man
So if you substitute VACCINATED and UNVACCINATED for meat-eaters and vegetarians, and substitute sharing a kitchen with working together, what do you get?
That’s our challenge.
Substitute so-called “CLIMATE ACTIVISTS “and so-called “CLIMATE DENIERS ” for meat-eaters and vegetarians, and sharing a kitchen with working together and sharing the planet……….
That’s our challenge.
And where does Psychotherapy come into this?
If we use psychotherapy to pathologise, to apply labels of mental illness to those who disagree with us, WE HAVE A PROBLEM.
If we apply what we know to help us understand that the reason underlying our inability to work together with people with opposing views is that we’re largely motivated by FEAR, and that this fear is in the most part a result of trauma, WE ARE ON THE WAY TO FINDING A SOLUTION.
If we are able to recognise that unresolved trauma plays a major part in the way that all of us, or the vast majority of us , treat ourselves and others, WE ARE ON THE PATH TO COOPERATION.
Are we willing to reflect upon this?
Instead of attempting to convert others to our points of view, are we willing to do our best to truly understand and empathise with people whose views we consider as incompatible with ours?
Are we willing to consider the suggestion that, ultimately, we all want the same outcomes, even when we have seemingly incompatible views as to how to achieve these outcomes?
And the challenge for me as I write this, is to consider that the people who hold the belief that what I’m saying is wrong and untenable have as much right to their beliefs as I have.
And that requires me to empathise with these people even though I believe that they are in fact leading to outcomes that are the very opposite of what we all want.
That’s the paradox, and, for me, that’s the greatest challenge.
Donald Marmara is the creator of Core Development, a process of emotional learning based on his professional training and 40 years experience in Somatic Psychotherapy, Counselling and Structural Dynamics.
Donald currently maintains a Somatic Psychotherapy practice in Sydney, Australia.
Donald Marmara created Core Development – a process of change and personal growth developed from his professional training and 35 years’ experience in somatic (body) psychotherapy, counselling and structural dynamics.
Core development adopts a flexible approach, recognising that what works for one person may not work for another.
He can be contacted on 0412 178 234.