PLEASE DO NOT CONFUSE PERFORMANCE WITH SELF ESTEEM
It’s Examination Time Again!!
BEST WISHES TO ALL STUDENTS DOING THEIR HSC
Whilst this was written primarily for students, it applies to us all.
If you are a student, please remember that, whilst exam results are important and getting the results you want will make a difference, your value as a human being is neither increased nor diminished by your performance.
Core Development offers the following to Parents, Educators, and Practitioners who work with children:
YOUR NEEDS MATTER
If you parent or work with children, it is likely you are always thinking of others. In doing so, you may be neglecting your own needs.
To be a better carer, it is important to take care of yourself.
Core Development offers:
The artist Chuck Close once said: “You can give the same recipe to 10 cooks. Some make it come alive, and some make a flat soufflé. A system doesn’t guarantee anything.”
The same applies to relationships. Hundreds of books tell you what to do and not do to make your relationships work. Numerous workshops claim to give you the “secrets” to success.
This is what my work in emotional learning – including somatic psychotherapy and counselling – is about. Restoring our capacity to give and receive love.
As a society, and indeed as a human race, we have moved so far away from our true nature, from what we know in our hearts – ie that our true nature is loving, cooperative and compassionate – that we we have come to believe that human nature is destructive.
PEOPLE WHO SUPPORT OTHERS NEED SUPPORT TOO!
Are YOU getting the support you need?
Are your needs being met?
I don’t need to explain how damaging stress can be, how it can undermine your immune system and cause you irritability, pain, and discomfort in the short term, and serious illness in the long term. Unfortunately you know this all too well.
We all need support in getting our needs met. When a child’s behaviour does not meet our expectations, is it helpful to use Behaviour Management Techniques?
This article is not meant as a criticism of parents and others who may be using a behaviour management approach. On the contrary, I have no doubt that you love your children and are doing your best to help them.
Counselling and Psychotherapy are powerful tools for personal and social change.
They enable us to resolve emotional issues that are preventing us from being happy with ourselves and our lives, and from having fulfilling relationships.
They can also be helpful in cases where physical problems are caused or aggravated by emotional stress. Somatic or Body Psychotherapy can be especially helpful in this respect.
A girl was sitting on her own in the school playground. I walked up to her and said “Are you OK? You look sad”.
She replied “It’s my birthday tomorrow”.
“Why does that make you sad?” I asked
”I’m getting a bicycle”
“Don’t you want a bicycle?”
“No I don’t want a bicycle. I want my dad to spend the day with me”
Talking to your teenager is one of life’s big challenges, requiring flexibility, creative thought and a willingness to enter into their world.
The aim is to give your teenager food for thought, rather than just dispensing advice, or reading them the riot act.
For communication to be meaningful, it involves genuine listening to what your teen is telling you. There’s a difference between listening to understand what they feel, and giving the appearance of listening when you’ve already made up your mind about what they should be doing.
(Reported in The Sunday Telegraph ,December 07, 2014)
We continue to treat this as if it were an individual problem, as if there’s something wrong with the children and adults who harm themselves, or who are anxious or depressed.
When will we wake up from our illusion of separation, and acknowledge that this is our problem as a society and indeed as a human race?
