What do parents and people who work with children have in common with therapists, facilitators and group leaders?
You tend to put others first! Whilst this is an admirable quality, in doing so you may be neglecting your own needs.
When your needs are not being met, it is easy to feel stressed and concerned about the issues in your own life. It is also easy for your emotions to get triggered by your children or clients.
Doctors, Nurses, Paramedics and Practitioners in the Healing Professions please note: If you substitute the word “patients” for children, and “Doctors, Nurses or Paramedics” for Parents, you will find that this also applies to you.
Core Development offers the following to Parents, Educators, and Practitioners who work with children:
PLEASE DO NOT CONFUSE PERFORMANCE WITH SELF ESTEEM
It’s Examination Time Again!!
BEST WISHES TO ALL STUDENTS DOING THEIR HSC
Whilst this was written primarily for students, it applies to us all.
If you are a student, please remember that, whilst exam results are important and getting the results you want will make a difference, your value as a human being is neither increased nor diminished by your performance.
Have you wondered why, despite advances in technology and the increasing use of psychological and coaching services, STRESS, ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION are still major problems?
When we talk about stress, we usually mean the symptoms of stress, such as headaches, back pain, anxiety, depression, and various emotional and physical problems.
Core Development offers:
The artist Chuck Close once said: “You can give the same recipe to 10 cooks. Some make it come alive, and some make a flat soufflé. A system doesn’t guarantee anything.”
The same applies to relationships. Hundreds of books tell you what to do and not do to make your relationships work. Numerous workshops claim to give you the “secrets” to success.
This is what my work in emotional learning – including somatic psychotherapy and counselling – is about. Restoring our capacity to give and receive love.
As a society, and indeed as a human race, we have moved so far away from our true nature, from what we know in our hearts – ie that our true nature is loving, cooperative and compassionate – that we we have come to believe that human nature is destructive.
How do you respond to the statement above?
Do you find yourself agreeing or disagreeing right away? Or do you stop to think about it?
What is your feeling response? Are you surprised, irritated, amused, pleased?
What is your bodily response? Do you sigh? Do you nod or shake your head?
What happens to your facial expression? What is your tone of voice when you talk about it?
PEOPLE WHO SUPPORT OTHERS NEED SUPPORT TOO!
Are YOU getting the support you need?
Are your needs being met?
Doctors, Nurses, Paramedics and Practitioners in the Healing Professions please note: If you substitute the word “Patients” for Children, and “Doctors, Nurses or Paramedics” for Parents, you will find that this also applies to you.
Fear is what anxiety and depression, wars, domestic violence, relationship breakdowns, child abuse, terrorism, mass shootings, self-harm and all forms of violence towards oneself and others have in common. They are all a result of fear.
In the latter part of this article, I describe two very simple exercises, well known to many psychotherapists, that could transform the way we relate and communicate. And in my article on “Dealing With Your Emotions”, I explain why I believe these methods are not more widely used .
We all need support in getting our needs met. When a child’s behaviour does not meet our expectations, is it helpful to use Behaviour Management Techniques?
This article is not meant as a criticism of parents and others who may be using a behaviour management approach. On the contrary, I have no doubt that you love your children and are doing your best to help them.
