Category: Reflections

How to Learn the Language of Emotions

by Donald Marmara, Emotional and Somatic Learning Facilitator, Core Development Sydney

Most of us are not terribly good at dealing with our emotions, let alone speaking about them. How do we find the right words, and be sensitive yet honest when talking about our own and other people’s emotions? Is it always appropriate to be honest about what we really feel? read more

Do I have to be Extraordinary to be OK?

I’ve been to many networking events, workshops and seminars that place so much emphasis on being extraordinary that I’d come out feeling that there must be something very wrong with me for not aspiring to reach the dizzy heights of extraordinariness(!)  that these people claim to have achieved. read more

The Power Of Choice: A Formative Experience

When I was 18 years old, I was a good amateur table-tennis player. I never made it to a final, but I made it to a semifinal and a number of quarterfinals.

In the first round of a national competition I was drawn against a player who had one leg shorter than the other and consequently limped and was unable to move fast. read more

There Is Beauty All Around Us

I DON’T THINK THE WORLD IS CHANGING IN THE WAY I’D LIKE IT TO.

In these times of upheaval, confusion and anxiety, however, I think it may be useful to consider this:

“There is beauty all around us, only for so many people it is buried and perhaps obscured by fear, hurt, frustration, anger, hopelessness, confusion……. read more

How Do You Listen? An important question

A wise old owl sat in an oak,The more she saw, the less she spoke. The less she spoke, the more she heard. Why can’t we be like this wise old bird?

In the mid-1980’s I served an apprenticeship with a Native American medicine man, Sun Bear.

When I introduced Sun Bear to an audience, I said:

There are different ways to listen. One way is to listen with your head, to try to understand, explain, interpret, evaluate and take notes. read more

CONVERSATION WITH AN EIGHT-YEAR-OLD GIRL

I had an interesting conversation with an eight year old girl.

I picked her up from school. When I asked her how her day was she replied “I’m having a sad day today”

I asked her what was making her sad and she replied “I think I’m stupid”.

What makes you think that? – I asked. read more

Hunger for Truth?

John Steinbeck makes this comment in one of his novels: “as long as there is a hunger in the stomach, the bombs will continue to fall”.

Yet as a society, we seem to be going around in never-ending circles, dealing with violence rather than with the underlying causes. Often we meet violence with violence. The hunger in the stomach, our physical, emotional, and spiritual needs, are not being met.

In his book “Fear of Life”, Alexander Lowen writes: “We are like the inmates of a mental institution who must accept its inhumanity and insensitivity as caring and knowledgeable to be regarded as sane enough to leave.” read more